Caring for a Loved One in Dementia Denial

Dealing with dementia denial may be a new and challenging experience for you. Caring for an elderly relative is a labor of love, but it comes with emotional and physical demands. The love and affection you share make the journey meaningful, and spending time together at this stage of life is precious. It’s a chance to relive cherished memories, create new ones, and honor the care they once gave you. However, when signs of dementia arise, addressing the issue can be particularly difficult.

If you've noticed changes in your loved one’s mental health or suspect the onset of dementia, you might be wondering what to do next. At Vermont Aged Care, we understand these challenges and are here to share guidance based on our experience.

For further information, visit the Dementia Australia website.

Understanding Dementia Denial

When addressing dementia, it’s important to approach the situation thoughtfully. Often, individuals with dementia are unaware of their condition. The degenerative nature of dementia means that its onset is gradual, and the signs are usually noticed by others first.

Steps to Address Dementia Denial

Consult Their Physician
Start with a private conversation with their regular doctor. The physician can suggest a checkup to rule out other health issues or medication-related symptoms.
Document Behavioral Changes
Keep a list of specific observations, such as memory lapses, mood swings, or unusual behavior. This evidence will help guide conversations and medical consultations.
Take a Gentle Approach
Initiate conversations delicately and be prepared for emotional reactions. Use calm, supportive language and have tissues and a comforting cup of tea on hand.

Signs to Look For

Memory Loss

Short-term memory loss is often an early sign of dementia. Your loved one may frequently talk about past events while forgetting recent ones. They may relive childhood memories but struggle to recall what happened earlier in the day.

Mood Swings

Mood changes can manifest as shifts between emotions, such as anxiety and optimism. They might react unexpectedly to situations, like laughing when others would cry. Depression can also emerge, driven by confusion and brain changes beyond their control.

Uncharacteristic Behavior

Dementia can lead to behaviors that are out of character, such as sudden aggression, use of inappropriate language, or loss of inhibitions. These actions are not deliberate but are often a result of frustration and cognitive changes.

Supporting Your Loved One

Embrace Their Memories

Engage in conversations about the past, view family photos, and watch old videos together. The timeline doesn’t matter; it’s the shared experience that counts.

Create Joy Through Familiarity

Play music they enjoy, even if it’s decades old, to evoke happiness and comfort. This helps foster a positive atmosphere.

Practice Patience and Understanding

Respond with empathy rather than frustration. A calm, supportive attitude can help ease their fear and anxiety about their changing reality.

Helpful Resources

For more information, visit the Dementia Australia website.
You can also call the National Dementia Helpline at 1800 100 500 for personalised advice and support.

Your care and compassion make a world of difference. With love, patience, and the right resources, you can navigate the challenges of dementia denial and help your loved one maintain their dignity and happiness.